A few weeks ago I asked for my Facebook friends and family to help me out with an upcoming blog post… I asked this question, “What is one piece of advice that you would tell your 20-something year old self if you had the chance?” I was honestly wowed by how many responses I got.
So, before I tell you all of the great things people commented, I want to explain why I’m about to tell you random life advice from random people that you most likely do not know.
We live in a world where people are constantly tearing each other down. We see it happen everyday and sometimes we might even be part of it. Whether we are the ones tearing people down or the ones who are being torn down, we have all been part of it.
Well, I want that to stop. I want to be part of a community that builds people up and encourages one another. I want to be part of a community who takes the hand of other broken people, because we first see our own brokenness. I want to be part of a community that says, “Your brokenness is welcome here,” and presses on hand in hand on this crazy journey we call life. Are you with me, beautifully broken friend? Great, then take my hand and lets do this thing together.
Here’s what people said they would tell their 20-something year old selves if they had the chance:
(For the sake of simplicity and organization, all advice will be under categories.)
“Travel while you’re young and before you have a family and responsibilities.”
“Travel! It’s life changing, broadens your horizons, makes you more interesting, more marketable, and will provide endless stories for small talk. Plus, the people you travel with will become friends for life!”
Career and Education.
“Discover your talents and use those to make an income rather than just picking a career.”
“Get your education so you can be financially independent and don’t have to rely on anyone to help take care of you.”
“Make memories, educate yourself, and ask questions.”
“Don’t rack up debt. Set a budget and stick to it. #ilovedaveramsey”
“Pay your bills on time and put a portion of your salary into savings.”
“Use wisdom with words. Everything you think does not need to be said (#bequiet). We don’t always need to defend yourself or your position — God is our defender.”
“Take life day by day, and be grateful for the little things. Don’t get stressed over what you can’t control.”
“Keep God first and don’t cave into the social norms.”
“Take time to really know who you are. Be content with your identity in Christ first.”
“Always be a leader for Christ and not a follower of man. You’ll always be going into a storm, in the middle of a storm, or coming out of one. Let God fight your battles. Always stand for your beliefs and don’t back down just to try and “fit in”.”
“Stand firm in your faith and who you are.”
“Remember that the most important relationship you will have in life is with God. He will be your one constant, your one rock, and your Savior.”
“Put God first.”
Love and Relationships.
“You don’t have to be married with kids to be somebody important so focus on what and where God has you and He will bring the right person along to marry in time.”
“Save yourself for the man of your dreams instead of allowing every guy to have a piece of your heart. When you do it not only hurts you but the ones you love.”
“Find out who you are before you choose a mate for life.”
“Have your own dreams, goals, and aspirations and allow God to be the one to weave your life and the life of your future spouse together. It’s a lot less stress and it’s so much easier.”
“Wait for the right man and don’t settle, no matter how lonely you might feel at times. Learn to like yourself and be okay with being alone. It’s better to be alone than be with someone and be miserable.”
“Your self worth should come from God, not man.”
“Boys really aren’t that important. Invest in your girlfriends, build those relationships. The security, social circle, true BFFs, and life that they will bring will be better than any silly boy.”
“Don’t mess up your relationship with your family because when you have a family and you are older, you will want it back.”
“Find out who you are and what goals you want out of life. Follow your dreams before you follow someone else. Be patient. God knows when and who to place in your life.”
“Stay true to you. Your thoughts, ideas, and feelings matter. If you don’t, one day you will wake up, look in the mirror, and not know the person looking back at you.”
“Every decision you make now will effect the rest of our life. Forgiveness is given if you know Jesus but consequences never just go away.”
“What you’re doing right now, really will shape your future. No matter how big or how small.”
So there you have it! 20-something pieces of advice for all you 20-something’s out there. I hope you walk away from reading this feeling encouraged and inspired. Because at the end of the day we need less tearing down and more building up. So this is my first step, by including the community and giving others a voice so that their encouraging words can reach others. Join in on the encouragement by sharing this post and tagging your friends!
Happy Monday loves!
PS. Thank you to everyone who took the time to comment their life-advice on my Facebook post!